Whether you are an experienced SM player or new to the game, I’ve written a little guide to introduce my BDSM style, how I work and what to expect from a session with me.
What are your sessions like, and what session type is right for me?
The two main session types I offer are Classic Domination and Kink GFE. My Kink GFE sessions are playful and flirtatious, with a a less "strict" tone and an overall softer dynamic that feels a bit more like having a kinky, dominant girlfriend than meeting with a classic pro domme. I will take pleasure in teasing and playing games with you, like a diva using you as my toy. This can be a great introduction for those curious about BDSM but unsure of whether the classic strict mistress style is the right fit, or for those who have experience and prefer playing on a more eye-to-eye level.
Classic Domination sessions are an opportunity to go deeper into power exchange and submit to me, body and mind. During Classic Domination BDSM sessions my position is one of strong authority over you: you may imagine me as a demanding goddess to serve and worship, a strict mistress who teases and denies you. While giving orders I enjoy punishing you for failure to comply with my demands, or for naughty behavior. I don't allow touching of my body in these sessions, only me touching and playing with you, tormenting you, and training you up to my standards. The ways I use you will bring me great satisfaction, beyond that of any simple physical gratification.
How are sessions structured?
For both session types, the activities involved and communication style will be discussed beforehand during negotiation, which typically lasts 5-10 minutes at the start of the session (this time does not count towards the length of the session, so be as descriptive as you need to be). We will go over your wishes for the session, relevant fantasies and turn-ons, the activities which may be part of the session, your experience level, and boundaries. For those who are looking to explore new things, I can provide suggestions based on your interests.
Regardless of whether we are playing with Kink GFE or Classic Domination, I prefer playing with others who like to give up a degree of control and allow me the creative power to direct the scene. I do not appreciate scripted scenes, topping from the bottom, or clients who come with a long checklist of kinks - this isn’t a BDSM drive-through. Great scenes take time to build up tension and get into a flow.
How to prepare for a BDSM session?
Check in with yourself and your body. We can adjust the pace of the session or the activities involved based on your needs. In terms of hygiene, I expect my playthings to be in good condition, so please take care of yourself, shower and use mouthwash beforehand (or use the facilities once arriving in-Studio). Douching is recommended before anal play (and mandatory before heavy anal fisting sessions).
Mutual respect is important to me. Be considerate and mindful as you approach me, and be sure to read carefully through my services and no-gos before writing or meeting me. I always reserve the right to refuse clients or end a session due to boundary-crossing, manipulative behavior or disrespect. For my part, I will do my best to create a base dynamic with you that feels safe, communicative and non-judgemental. If you are not sure whether something is appropriate and within my boundaries or not, ask me politely.
When you arrive for a session, be prepared to communicate your wishes clearly during the negotiation. I want to learn about your fantasies, your hidden desires, what turns you on.
I look forward to playing with you.
Xx,
Inara
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